Where to go when old?

Where to go when old?

I know there is a well-known person in Bangladesh. brother is dead Left behind two sons and a daughter. The marriage of all the children is over. Bhabhi does not work, never did before. The children may have shared the money that my brother had saved for work, but I don't know the details. The future husband has lost and does not even work. In the context of Bangladesh, he is supposed to be in a family of boys. Otherwise, the dark of the new moon fills the mind of a woman alone. But most of the reality is what happened in Bhabi's forehead. The mother could not stay close to her two sons. He even drifted to another shelter in tears due to the misbehavior of the boys. I heard that he lives by renting some kind of house. Now many will say that mothers are also to blame. So they cannot live in the family of boys. This is not true in most cases. I know a lot from real experience.

In the context of Bangladesh, having parents in an old age home is a loveless, undignified affair. But it is a center of hope for the poor and lower middle class.

A nursing home abroad or in Canada is called an old home or senior home. For white Canadians, it is a place of great late-age dependence. When they get old or after retirement, they voluntarily go to senior homes. Stay until death. Boys and girls go to meet. This is a normal rule for Canadians in this country. And the senior homes are the same. There are all kinds of advanced systems and service people. There are government and private old homes. Private ones have to pay themselves and that amount is quite big. The cost depends on the quality of the residence. I saw on Google that these private senior residences cost between $1500-CAD 6000 per month for one person. You have to pay this money yourself. And those who have long-term care home also depends on the case. There should be insurance, there should be a case worker then it will be understood who will make the payment. The government will do it, not whoever is there will do it. Anyway, there are many of these systems here.

Most Canadians move there when they finish their jobs or get old. But there is no tendency among people in our community to go to senior homes in this country. Either the parents stay at home alone or stay with the children even after their marriage.

I don't like parents staying together after their children's marriage. No one has privacy. Neither the children nor the parents. Both will be different. There will be comings and goings. Then the relationship will be good. There will be respect.

Such thinking is possible in these countries. Because people who work are buying houses. There is life insurance. You will get a pension at the end of the service. So these parents have a speed in their old age. Children will not inherit the property until the parents die etc.

For example, my husband and I have very good life insurance. We will also get a pension. Both houses are in our name. We can stay in our own house until we die if we feel like it. I personally never agree to stay with children after marriage. Moreover, the environment here is also like that. Children become independent after twelfth grade. Some live in separate houses. After university, they buy their own house or apartment. No one lives with their parents. When the parents die, they sell the house and take the money.

My colleague was saying that he knows a Bengali family. Their son is married. The son will buy a house. The son told his parents, "Sell your house and give us the money. We will buy a house. You will live with us." The parents sold their house and gave the money to the son. The son bought the house. Parents started living with them. Later the son said, I need a room for my children on the main floor above. You go to the basement. Parents are living in the basement keeping the pain in their chest. This is a reality in Canada.

Now let me give another example. The neighbor on the left side of my house will be 75 years old. My name is Donna. white Canadian is A bit frail for his age. Donna's daughter is married and lives in another house. A good boy like him is hard to find in any country. He did not get married for a long time to serve his mother. The boy lives in the basement. Mother lives alone on the main floor. A few days ago, the son got married. He is living in the basement with his wife. Two people serve Mother together. This son could have sent his mother to a senior home, or he could have sent his mother down, or he could have left with his wife. He did nothing. I have rarely seen such a polite boy.

Anyway, my advice is, whether you live in the country or abroad, think about yourself. Think about where you will be in the future. Keep money for yourself. Insurance if possible. There is no telling how your beloved children will treat you. Those you give your life for today, will not find them by your side tomorrow when your life is gone. But this is real.

May Allah keep you healthy